An idea isn't worth much until a man is found who has the energy and ability to make it work.
If you are a nurturing mother, and a good one, you can go to play groups, sit on the floor and play all the games, and have tea with the other mothers, but wouldn't you like to think that's not all there is? That you haven't hung up your high heels without knowing how to walk in them?
No couples in Virginia can adopt other than a married couple - that's the right policy.