I never threw the spitter, well maybe once or twice when I really needed to get a guy out real bad.
American men are more open, they are readier to express their emotions, but they also get frightened easily. Italians are used to drama. For us, arguing, shouting is perfectly normal - for them it is inconceivable.
I don't get to listen to music for fun very often; a lot of what I'm hearing is for work and isn't released yet.