Leadership is a matter of having people look at you and gain confidence, seeing how you react. If you're in control, they're in control.
“My father was a Catholic, but my mother wasn't. She had to do that weird deal you do as a Catholic - they deign to sanction your marriage and you have to bring your children up as Catholics.”
“Fear has nothing to do with cowardice. A fellow is only yellow when he lets his fear make him quit.”