I'm of the mind that life is a risk, every time you leave your house it's a risk, and I see no reason to go through life with my hands tied behind my back for any reason. I'd be foolish to let something stop me from doing what I love to do.
When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
Ruins, for me, are the beginning. With the debris, you can construct new ideas. They are symbols of a beginning.