You have to find out what's right for you, so it's trial and error. You are going to be all right if you accept realistic goals for yourself.
“In the beginning of the human race there was no genetic load which would cause undesirable traits such as appear in offspring of marriages between relatives today.”
“I nursed men back to sanity who were driven to despair. I solicited clothes for the ragged children, for the desperate mothers. I laid out the dead, the martyrs of the strike.”