Find people who think like you and stick with them. Make only music you are passionate about. Work only with people you like and trust. Don't sign anything.
A good example of how it must have been is today's world of conducting, which is still utterly dominated by men, and the prejudice the few female conductors have to battle even today is astounding.
There's something very addictive about people pleasing. It's a thought pattern and a habit that feels really, really good until it becomes desperate.

