Certainly I'm angry at the way Indians have been treated and continue to be treated. But I don't think it's a helpless emotion.
Family, work, familiarity. Listen, if I had a magic wand and I could make myself really be happy, I'd zap me onto a farm. And I know nothing about farming.
The best relationships are when you both want to make each other happy - you buy the groceries, I do the dishes.