When you finally go back to your old home, you find it wasn't the old home you missed but your childhood.
Younger players in this music often turn out to be middle aged; it is not a young music.
I think it's important to keep your personal life to yourself as much as you can. It protects your sanity and you need to have boundaries. And it helps that enchantment of watching an actor. If you know someone's favourite colour or what they like to do on a Sunday, you won't fall for the character

