A guy is a lump like a doughnut. So, first you gotta get rid of all the stuff his mom did to him. And then you gotta get rid of all that macho crap that they pick up from beer commercials. And then there's my personal favorite, the male ego.
I'm proud, I've been working with this kind of self-sacrificing people like you.
When you get on base, holes open up and things happen and you're able to find a way to score runs.