It is once again the vexing problem of identity within variety; without a solution to this disturbing problem there can be no system, no classification.
Everyone has an opinion of who you are and what your relationship is about, things that you've done or didn't do in your relationship - and it's just all crap, really. Things that are written about it are all crap.
I'm sorry I didn't feel any better or play any better, but that's what happens at the end of careers.