What I think I've been able to do well over the years is play with pain, play with problems, play in all sorts of conditions.
He knew a lot about his grandparents - and perhaps he feels he's been endowed with abilities to go into people's heads who are long dead - but, to a certain extent, he's making it up.
The manner in which one endures what must be endured is more important than the thing that must be endured.

