When I was in college, I lost my scholarship one year. I had enough money for tuition, but not room and board. So I camped in the hills.
I think you have to know who you are. Get to know the monster that lives in your soul, dive deep into your soul and explore it.
Jesus never said a word about homosexuality. In all of his teachings about multiple things - he never said that gay people should be condemned. I personally think it is very fine for gay people to be married in civil ceremonies.