I know in my own marriage I stayed in it to provide my son with what I thought was a stable background and to give him what I thought was the family life a child should have with two parents. But that isn't always the best way, and it took me taking my son to therapy after the divorce to really see
The things I learned from the army - and I think it was a lesson for life - was how to work in unison with other people. How to take responsibility.
When you make something, cleaning it out of structural debris is one of the most vital things you do.