There is a way to look at the past. Don't hide from it. It will not catch you if you don't repeat it.
When there are multiple versions of a story, you really have three ways to go. You can pick the most sensational version. You can try to balance things in your gut to get to what you think is the honest truth. Or you can err on the side of kindness.
For stage wear and gowns, Julien McDonald, who is a friend of mine. I love that he can be totally over the top for stage wear!