Some of us may just, in one-on-one conversations with our family, with our friends, over the back fence with our neighbors, talk about the reality of our lives and realize that we're not alone, that we have a right to be physically safe and emotionally safe in our own homes.
Love is as strict as acting. If you want to love somebody, stand there and do it. If you don't, don't. There are no other choices.
You can lay down and die, or you can get up and fight, but that's it - there's no turning back.