My first priority is my children. If at any moment I put aside something that I want to do to be a better parent than that is more than okay for me.
Leadership is particularly necessary to ensure ready acceptance of the unfamiliar and that which is contrary to tradition.
I think you also understand that one of the key things that's got to be done in Iraq is to build a mentality of understanding that the military needs to be subordinate to civilian control and respectful of its own people.