Sometimes I eavesdrop on people. I could rationalize it - oh, this is good anthropological research for characters I'm writing - but it's basically just nosiness. It also helps me gauge where I'm at: Am I normal?
I like doing things where I can get dirty, work with my hands, and use power tools. Last weekend, I did some grouting.
Thus you are just not because you give what is owed, but because you do what is appropriate to you as the highest good.