I think a lot of writers, male and female, write as if their parents were killed in a car accident when they were 2, and they have no one to hold accountable. And unfortunately, I don't have that. I have parents who I care about what they think.
Experience is that marvelous thing that enable you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.
Reading 'Moby-Dick' was really a sort of transformative literary experience for me.