Life is about luck and it's about circumstances and socioeconomic conditions and all the rest of it, but you know, you can also make choices. It's about spirit and generosity and all the other things, too.
If I go out to dinner with you and you order wine, I leave. I won't be around drugs and alcohol at all.
You can't take people's opinions personally. Usually what people say about it is a reflection of them own issues.