I think that if you shake the tree, you ought to be around when the fruit falls to pick it up.
I don't know what psychotherapy does. I have been seeing the same person for 26 years now.
Back then, as a kid, you made a choice of who you liked, and it was either us or 'Take That.' And if you liked 'East 17', it showed you knew what was going on, you were clued up, had better taste in music.