It's always hard - if you're not the best player on your team, how can you be the best player in college?
The reason man does not experience his true cultural self is that until he experiences another self as valid he has little basis for validating his own self.
Love, it has been said, flows downward. The love of parents for their children has always been far more powerful than that of children for their parents; and who among the sons of men ever loved God with a thousandth part of the love which God has manifested to us?