I can't say it's not painful being estranged from most of my family. I wish it could be otherwise.
The process is very gradual, you see. At first there's the tainted stage; they know what will eventually happen to them if they go on but they say, 'Oh God, don't do it to me do it again, please, please.'
People who say they don't care what people think are usually desperate to have people think they don't care what people think.