If you're a basketball player and you don't stop and take pictures with your fans, you can have an amazing game and everyone still loves you.
No one forces me, or any other writer, to sell a film option on the books. If you don't want to run the risk that the filmmakers may adapt your work in a way you don't like, then you don't sell the option. You know when you sell it that they will have to make some changes, just because film and TV a
Also, in a funny way, if you have been happily married there are no unresolved areas, nothing to prove to yourself after the other dies.

