There is no definitive guidebook on how to pick the right partner, and even if there were, I'm way too dumb to write it.
The process of receiving information for me is seeing, hearing, and feeling their energy in my frame of reference. That doesn't mean I see the individual, unfortunately.
The sharecropper may lower his eyes, but not because he's less of a man. That's just a condition of society that such things exist.

