There is no definitive guidebook on how to pick the right partner, and even if there were, I'm way too dumb to write it.
If we do discover a complete theory, it should be in time understandable in broad principle by everyone. Then we shall all, philosophers, scientists, and just ordinary people be able to take part in the discussion of why we and the universe exist.
Freedom in capitalist society always remains about the same as it was in ancient Greek republics: Freedom for slave owners.