Planning is really the hallmark of any large military formation, and it's typically a weakness in new formations and new armies.
I think all married couples tend to run things by each other in every capacity and we're not different to them.
Understand that sexuality is as wide as the sea. Understand that your morality is not law. Understand that we are you. Understand that if we decide to have sex whether safe, safer, or unsafe, it is our decision and you have no rights in our lovemaking.