Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.
Because there is that sort of feeling that people don't know what to do with gaps in their lives. It's a scary notion, but actually, if you can stand in space just for a little while, a new door will open, or you'll be able to see in the dark after a while. You'll adjust.
You don't lead by hitting people over the head - that's assault, not leadership.