My truth - what I believe - is that there are no answers here and, if you are looking for answers, you'd better choose the question carefully.
Romantic love is mental illness. But it's a pleasurable one. It's a drug. It distorts reality, and that's the point of it. It would be impossible to fall in love with someone that you really saw.
My theory is if you have a religion, it's a good one. Because some people don't have any at all.