I don't think there's anything more important than making peace before it's too late. And it almost always falls to the child to try to move toward the parent.
Informed decision-making comes from a long tradition of guessing and then blaming others for inadequate results.
My problem is that I always find jeans that are either high-waisted or low-rise, but nothing in between, like they used to be in the eighties and early nineties. That's actually the most flattering cut.

