A mother who is obsessing about being thin and dieting and exercising is not going to be a very good mother.
A man can look upon his life and accept it as good or evil; it is far, far harder for him to confess that it has been unimportant in the sum of things.
That's the difference between golf and many other sports. You go to some other sporting events, they just leave you or give you the cold shoulder and move on.