A man sooner or later discovers that he is the master-gardener of his soul, the director of his life.
That's what my mother did. And my father was the first person she'd met who treated her kindly. She was terrified of men, and she married a very meek, kind, dear man. And she had the upper hand. She ruled the roost.
Happy is the person who knows what to remember of the past, what to enjoy in the present, and what to plan for in the future.