I'm a parent, especially when you've had the intense parenting the way I had. It's all in the bank. It's all in the great experience bank. Those are your secrets. That's the stuff that makes your work rich, that's what you dip into.
As barbaric is we are, it's a miracle we haven't blown ourselves off the face of the earth so far.
I think there's something degrading about having a husband for a rival. It's humiliating if you fail and commonplace if you succeed.