Real change isn't found in some new way to think about yourself, but in freedom from the need to think about yourself at all.
One thing I think kids need to do is more chores, and take care of their own rooms. Responsibilities are really important to start them with. If they have animals, they have to feed them and care for them. That's the only way I think I could do it.
Look, you have to make mistakes. That's how you learn and that's how the world works.