Since retiring I have spent a lot of time with my family, on my boat, and playing football.
Oftentimes what happens is that the writer understands one character, but they don't understand the other one, and the other one ends up not being written as well.
I had a husband who, I'm convinced, was an undiagnosed manic depressive. He didn't treat me as if I had a brain - I was just this beautiful little doll he could show off.