I love the idea of leaving some of the original abstract thought in, because the problem is that when you pick up a pen you become a snob, your own worse critic. You edit yourself in a way that is non-creative.
I was taught from a young age that many people would treat me as a second-class citizen because I was African-American and because I was female.
There is no definitive guidebook on how to pick the right partner, and even if there were, I'm way too dumb to write it.

