I guess you kind of got to realize that once you in a marriage, whatever it is, you gotta deal with it. Not necessarily that you got to accept it, but you have to deal with it and try your best to make it work for you, for the both of you.
For me, I want my kids to find their way. If they're interested in something, I want them to try it out.
Life is not simple, and people can't be boxed into being either heroes or villains.