Family quarrels are bitter things. They don't go according to any rules. They're not like aches or wounds, they're more like splits in the skin that won't heal because there's not enough material.
A writer's work often reflects what he or she has been exposed to in life; experiences which are the groundwork of a poem or a story.
You feel different every day of your life. You just have to create your own space to survive, personally and professionally.