I think there's something degrading about having a husband for a rival. It's humiliating if you fail and commonplace if you succeed.
It's true, Christmas can feel like a lot of work, particularly for mothers. But when you look back on all the Christmases in your life, you'll find you've created family traditions and lasting memories. Those memories, good and bad, are really what help to keep a family together over the long haul.

