Personally, I think if a women hasn't met the right man by the time she's 24, she may be lucky.
We tend to read each other's books in sizeable chunks as they are written. I don't know that you could say we are ruthless with each other - in fact, I suppose we are very kind. There are ways to make suggestions which are not destructive.
The commandment 'Thou shalt not kill' does not say it's O.K. to kill some people and not others.