There's an alternative. There's always a third way, and it's not a combination of the other two ways. It's a different way.
“Don't undertake a project unless it is manifestly important and nearly impossible.”
“I guess you kind of got to realize that once you in a marriage, whatever it is, you gotta deal with it. Not necessarily that you got to accept it, but you have to deal with it and try your best to make it work for you, for the both of you.”