Your position never gives you the right to command. It only imposes on you the duty of so living your life that others can receive your orders without being humiliated.
If you come on my property, I've got you from the second that you enter on. There's little lasers... my TVs come on in my room and fall just right on you. So, there's no way to sneak up on me. And I've got a loud dog.
I allow a lot of room for improvisation and funny stuff. I always feel planned.