There are two freedoms - the false, where a man is free to do what he likes; the true, where he is free to do what he ought.
I had a patient once who dreamed she kept her husband in the deep freeze except for mating. Lots of men feel that way.
Our people, though capable of strong and durable feeling, were not demonstrative in their affection at any time, least of all in the presence of guests or strangers.