I have a mess in my head sometimes, and there's something very satisfying about putting it into words. Certainly it's not something that you're in charge of, necessarily, but writing about it, putting it into your words, can be a very powerful experience.
I played Baby New Year. When everybody started hollering and throwing confetti, I thought it was for me.
No, you're not allowed to be bossy when you're married. You have to learn compromise, and compassion and patience.