Sure, I suffered a lot. But it's not like the end of the world and it's not who I am. I lead quite a pleasant life and I'm able to divorce a perceived reality from my actual experience of life.
There is no such thing as several Romanias, but only politicians who divide Romania depending on the interests of their parties and their clout.
Having a child changes everything. All of a sudden you have so much to lose, so much to live for.