The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope.
In time your relatives will come to accept the idea that a career is as important to you as your family. Of course, in time the polar ice cap will melt.
You know that murder is wicked. If you saw your master kill a man, do you suppose this would be any excuse for you, if you should commit the same crime?