Success is sweet and sweeter if long delayed and gotten through many struggles and defeats.
My mother told me two things constantly. One was to be a lady and the other was to be independent, and the law was something most unusual for those times because for most girls growing up in the '40s, the most important degree was not your B.A. but your M.R.S.
Conventional manners are a kind of literacy test for the alien who comes among us.