Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children.
I have lived in countries that were coming out of conflict: Ireland, South Africa, the Czech republic. People there are overflowing with energy.
The trick to writing for people is, you have to be able to turn them on in your head. And know how they'd word something or how they'd inflect it.

