They have to exist or not in their own right. I mean, with kids, you don't say, 'Which is your favourite,' or 'Which did you enjoy bringing up the best?'
Honestly, so much of my book is about the best things in my life have happened since I'm 40.
When Man evolved Pity, he did a queer thing - deprived himself of the power of living life as it is without wishing it to become something different.