You have to lead people to get excited and be passionate and be activated by what you do.
Sometimes a piece of music in the score isn't effective. When a score is too well finished with too many elements, sometimes it's too much.
Inevitably I draw on my own relationships when I write, so if I'm writing about a fight between a husband and his wife, of course I'm going to think about a recent fight with my husband. Or if I'm writing about sisters, of course I'm going to think about my sister.