You have to feel confident. If you don't, then you're going to be hesitant and defensive, and there'll be a lot of things working against you.
A racially integrated community is a chronological term timed from the entrance of the first black family to the exit of the last white family.
The hardest of all is learning to be a well of affection, and not a fountain; to show them we love them not when we feel like it, but when they do.