What I read is so distorted that I cannot believe that the person they are talking about is myself.
In my whole life, I've worn black tie three times. I can't tie the knot myself.
God preordained, for his own glory and the display of His attributes of mercy and justice, a part of the human race, without any merit of their own, to eternal salvation, and another part, in just punishment of their sin, to eternal damnation.